A lot of you mentioned that the post gave a lot to think about. In return, your comments have given me a lot to reflect on. I've selected a few to illustrate 8 reasons why you should be grateful for chronic illness.
1. Gratitude Brings Empathy, Compassion and Humility
"I have only been diagnosed for almost a year, but I can very much relate. I too look at things differently and can feel so much empathy for others who are suffering from chronic illnesses. I would have never been able to understand it before I became ill. Also, I now realize that just because someone looks healthy, you cannot always assume that they feel good too." - Carrie48
"I learned to become a more humble human being due to chronic illness. I learned to appreciate nature's beauty where before I became sick I just took it all for granted. Even though I was always a compassionate person, I became more compassionate, just when I thought that was not possible." - Deejavu2. Gratitude Brings Resilience and Openness
"I easily identified when you talked about "pain and suffering", as my entire 3 year prostate cancer journey has been wracked with almost constant pain. I too, have learned that I can take a lot more than I thought I could, and despite my setbacks and complications and disappointments in my own journey, I still keep moving forward, trying to live the best way that I can. It has also made me open myself up in ways that would have been impossible without the lingering illness. It's made me more social than I was prior in my life, and I have no problems with seeking help from others, whether it's here at HealingWell, or in my real life relationships with people." - Purgatory3. Gratitude Brings Patience and Closer Relationships
"I have become more patient. I have started eating more healthily, taking more exercise. I appreciate friends, family, beautiful things etc more. It got me out of a rut. I tidied up my house and cleared out all the unneeded mess clutter etc.! It made us realise it was time to move out of a flat and find a house with a garden. I'm much closer to my wife, we were so close I am surprised it was possible to get closer. It has also introduced me to the wonderful guys and gals at HW". - English Alf
"Prostate Cancer brought my wife and I closer than we have been in years and I am so grateful for that. PC brought me to this forum and I now have so many new friends I otherwise would not have had the honor to meet. I honestly feel better than I have in years and I now live everyday like it is a bonus thanks to friends. I also have a new purpose in my life and that is to spread PC awareness with family, friends and my business customers." - The Water Boy4. Gratitude Inspires Service
"Having this "challenge" has encouraged me to volunteer with a hospice organization because I figured there must be some positive way that I can make use of these experiences.... death is a natural process that none of us are immune to regardless of a cancer diagnosis. It may seem counter-intuitive but it seems the more I can accept that fact, the better I am at making the most of living." - Dreamerboy
"For the last three and a half years, I've been working part time at a funeral home..... The experience has helped me accept the fact of my own mortality. I've often marveled at the strength and courage which these families and the deceased person have displayed in the face of extremely trying circumstances. It has definitely strengthened my commitment to my wife, my children, and my grandchildren. Each day is precious, and each hour shared with those I love, especially perhaps the grandchildren, has taken on a much deeper meaning." - clocknut5. Gratitude Brings Perspective
"I'm very grateful that I've avoided surgery, have my life back and I don't sweat the small stuff anymore. Being in the hospital and having a chronic disease brings perspective, I think and makes the good days that much better." - beatUC6. Gratitude Brings Acceptance
"I think that embracing this illness with your inner true self and making a connection are the initial steps towards getting better. If I were given a choice not to have this illness, I'll gladly take it. I'm sure everyone would. But because of what I went through, not just physical suffering, I'm happy to admit that I've changed a bit in a good way and this is probably the one of the only things that I appreciate as an outcome of having this illness. Though I still need to go through more changing, I'm proud that I've made some progress with my inner self while dealing with illness." - CollegeStudent7. Gratitude Brings Opportunities for Growth
"I think cultivating gratitude is a great practice, but my gratitude is for the resilience I gained, the kindness, the perspective, etc but not at all for the illness itself. I think of the children in my life -- would I like them to be resilient, to have perspective, to show and experience kindness -- absolutely! But would I wish Crohn's disease on them to gain these qualities -- absolutely not! It is a wonderful thing that we have the capacity to use the difficult parts of our lives as opportunities for growth -- I stand in awe and wonder at how many people do this..... and it is also amazing that even with great adversity, there is still so much good in the world left for us if we pay attention." - blueglass8. Gratitude Brings.... Un-Sweetness?
"I'm grateful that I'm not nearly as sweet as I used to be! :)" - barkyboys
I am thankful for being part of a community that shares with me both the joys and heartaches of living with chronic illness. You have helped me in so many ways. Happy Thanksgiving!

I'm right there with Deejavu - Before I had fibromyalgia I used to appreciate nature's beauty only when it was different than my normal surroundings. Now I am constantly in awe of nature. That appreciation has lead to a greater love of photography and hiking. I am just so moved by how amazing things looks now.
ReplyDeleteI agree with others about how it strengthens the compassion I feel for others. I was a caring person before, but now I feel even more compassion.
What a great post, Peter! Lots of good perspective!
ReplyDeleteWhile I am not grateful for having a chronic disease, I am grateful for the healingwell forum and all the help and support I have received there!! It saved my sanity these past few years. Whenever I need an answer or support, the forums have been there for me. I am also inspired by the incredible people on these forums. The kindness, love and compassion they show for members is beyond anything I've ever imagined.
ReplyDeleteI really wish I didn't have chronic illness too, but since I do there is no point spending time worrying about it holding me back. I accept it and move on with hope :)
DeleteI believe that my life has changed despite all of the terrible things that come along with having Fibro. I have changed my daily aspect of life, met amazing people and look at the future in a different light.
ReplyDeleteYour attitude is truly inspiring. As on who struggles with my own demons, it is good to someone else succeeding against his own hurdles!
ReplyDeleteGratitude indeed. Thank you. This was just what I needed to read today. I googled 'despair of chronic illness' just now. And it lead to healingwell and this article. A wonderful find. I've been in bed for nearly a month. I'm right at the cusp of a three year journey into mysterious ill health--intermittent heart pains, chest tightness, fatigue, malaise, random fevers, significantly worsened asthma. Despite endless rounds of testing, doctors remain perplexed and I struggle to stay peaceful and optimistic. Resilience is hard. I think it's second order good. Something that can only cultivated through adversity. In that sense, perhaps, I'm grateful for these years of adversity.
ReplyDeleteI love this, thank you for sharing some of the members terrific perspectives!
ReplyDeleteYes, Yes, Yes. Thank you for this. Your blogs really resonate with me.
ReplyDeleteThanks Maureen! Love comments like that :)
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